How we help you ignite the fire within

I have just spent the past seven hours on a boat hoping to find whale sharks in Roatán. It was not a perfect trip. It was supposed to be a whale shark diving trip, but in the end, we saw absolutely no whale sharks whatsoever. That frustrated some of the people that we were with, particularly my husband, but you know what? At the end of the day, nothing is going to be perfect, and instead of seeing whale sharks, which was kind of disappointing that we didn’t, we saw squid. And I have never seen juvenile squid before.

As we were following the juvenile squid they were changing colors, pulsing blue and then pink, and blue again. To see eight of them do it at once was so cool – it was as if they were synchronized swimmers. On the way back from my boat trip there were a pod of wild dolphins that swam with our boat, jumped up right beside us. I thought Karen was going to lose her mind, she was so excited about these dolphins.

It wasn’t a perfect trip: it was a little disorganized and a little chaotic. My hand is covered in a couple hundred bug bites. But in the same breath I am right by the beach. Having a gorgeous little cabana right by the beach made my trip perfect for me. And perfectionism, and a quest for everything needing to be perfect, will only end up in complete disappointment, because nothing is perfect. If that’s all you’re ever looking for, you’ll always be disappointed.

If you are okay with the imperfect being perfect then you will always be happy. That’s one of the mantras that has become near and dear to my heart. Today wasn’t perfect, but it was an awesome day. I hope that whatever kind of a day you’re experiencing right now, you just pause and say, “You know what? Can I be happy with the imperfect? Can the imperfect be perfect enough for me to be happy? To be content? To be enough?” And when you start thinking in those kinds of terms, that not only is the imperfect enough, that the imperfect inside you is enough too, then how can you be unhappy? You can’t.

If you’re unhappy and feel lost, feeling like you should be happy but you’re not, start thinking about what you derive your happiness from. Are you always searching and questing for that perfect something? The perfect relationship? The perfect environment? The perfect salary? The perfect job? It won’t come to you. You have to go get it. The path to success starts with the mindset of the imperfect being absolutely perfect.

Wherever you are, especially if it’s cold, may this blog bring a little bit of warmth. If you have a little bit of coldness in your heart, maybe it brought a little warmth there too. Take care.